Top 10 Products To Get The Juices Flowing For People Over 40
Special guest, Gretchen Leigh, from She Bop, women-owned sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon, has returned for some last minute stocking stuffer ideas.
This list of some great products to help us midlifers get our juices flowing, is so…juicy! Get your notepad handy - you won’t want to miss any of these spicy tips…
Thanks Gretchen!
Check out Gretchen’s previous post: Top 10 Midlife Questions To Ask a Sex Shop
Lube of All Kinds
Lube, lube lube! While people of all ages can benefit from having a good lubricant on hand, it’s a must for folks over 40.
As we age, tissue can become more tender and prone to tears, and as we experience hormonal changes the elasticity of our skin can decrease. Lubricant can not only prevent damage to the tissue, but also create a slick, lower-friction environment to increase pleasure.
We recommend an oil-based lubricant to deeply moisturize, a water-based lubricant for a texture most similar to naturally produced wetness, or a silicone-based lubricant for the longest-lasting glide!
Some great lubricants to try:
2. Dilators and Insertables
If you’re interested in penetrative play, there is a whole world of instertable options waiting for you! From ultra life-like flexible dildos of all shapes and sizes to smooth, weighty toys made of glass and silicone designed to rock your world, there’s sure to be a penetrative toy out there that fits the bill for you. On top of being great for pleasure, using a toy of a comfortable size during solo or partnered play can also be a great form of dilation; helping to keep the tissue and muscles of the vagina or rectum flexible and ready for further play.
Some dildos and insertables to try:
3. A Gentle Vibe
Tenga Iroha Zen
For those of us who just want to try a little something and take your standard sex up a notch, getting acquainted with a new gentle vibrator might be just the thing. Vibration not only feels good, but can help get blood flowing and increase physiological arousal by invigorating the genital area directly.
If you’ve never experimented with vibration before, it can be intimidating to jump right to something big, heavy, or extra strong. If that sounds like you, consider trying a smaller vibrator with a soft texture that can be either handheld or rubbed up against. You may just find your new best friend!
Some gentle vibrators to try:
4. An Extra Strong Vibe
Vibratex Magic Wand Rechargeable
On the other end of the spectrum from our soft vibes, sometimes you just need something powerful to get the job done! A strong vibrator with a reliable motor, such as a wand-style toy, can be an absolutely wonderful tool for arousal and orgasm.
As our bodies change, sometimes our preferences and needs do too, and if you’re finding yourself less interested in battery-operated or gentle vibrators these days, a wand could be the perfect option to check out. Strong, fun, and gets the job done!
Some strong vibrators to try:
5. Fun For The Backdoor
The great thing about butts? Everyone’s got one! And what better way to keep exploring through your 40s and beyond than to keep learning about all the myriad ways our bodies can experience pleasure?
Whether you’re a butt stuff newbie or a seasoned ass pro, there are tons of new toys out there to explore booty pleasure. We recommend starting with something small and comfortable, like a plug made of squishy silicone or smooth stainless steel. Or level it up with a vibrating plug to add a little sensation!
Some butt toys to try:
6. Erotica
Once you’ve got your toys taken care of, turn your attention to your biggest sex organ - your brain! Sexy media comes in all shapes, forms, and topics, and there is nothing like sinking into a book full of tantalizing stories!
If you’ve dreamed it up, we can almost guarantee there’s a story written about it, just waiting for you to read! Choose between novel-format books with one long-form story or an anthology of short stories, put together in one book based on sexy themes.
Some erotica to try:
7. Age-Specific Resources
Next on the reading list: books written just for you on how bodies and desires change with age! No matter what your age, it never hurts to have a little community validation that what you’re going through is normal, relatable, and even sexy. If you’re ready to do some reading, peruse these options for a topic that speaks to you and your unique experience!
Some age-specific books to try:
8. Relaxing Bath Soak
With your erotica or resourceful book in hand, you’re ready for a relaxing bath! Opting for an evening of self-care is a great way to connect with yourself and get the juices flowing.
Take some time to check in and offer yourself something truly special! If you want to level up your bath-time, adding something like a gently scented, perfectly sparkly, moisturizing bath salt can be just the ticket to an amazing experience!
Some bath soaks to try:
9. Luxurious Body/Vulva Oil
Let the self care continue and give back to your hard-working body! There are many options out there for deep moisturizers that can increase tissue elasticity, soothe the skin, fight irritation, and alleviate pain. Use these oils as part of your after-shower or pre-bed ritual, apply them as a protective layer before applying lube for partnered play, or just enjoy when you need a little extra sexy boost.
Some oils to try:
Earthly Body Massage Candle
10. Something Kinky
Last but not least, try something new! There is nothing better to get the juices flowing than adding something novel and exciting into your play. Experiment with things like temperature changes, delicious tastes, and titillating smells to get the arousal going, and try limiting one of your senses (e.g., using a blindfold) to heighten the others!
In this context, “kinky” means anything new, edgy, or taboo to you - the options are limitless. Why not branch out a bit and bring some excitement back to the bedroom? While there are unlimited options out there, we recommend starting out with warm sensations like a soy-based massage candle, gentle impact like spanking with a fuzzy paddle, or easy bondage with cuffs or silky ties.
Some sensational kinky items to try:
Special Featured Guest…
Gretchen Leigh is She Bop's Education Coordinator and an educator, personal trainer, athlete, and performer; dedicated to helping people find the confluence of physical, mental, and sexual health. Though she has made a name for herself in the sex ed world with classes like "Ass Like That" and "Fellatio 2.0" she maintains a passion for health education, and is currently the go-to resource for many on sex after cancer, pelvic floor health, and more. Her multi-disciplinary style is distinctly comfortable, humorous, tender, and interactive.
Website: www.sheboptheshop.com
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